• • • WARNING: REALLY coarse, rude language in the linked video • • •
This guy’s really funny. It’s a bit difficult to listen to the video, because I’m not a fan of the really coarse language. It’s comedian Bill Burr talking about men and women.
Interesting quote from the video: “I gotta tell ya, I’m envious of women. I’m not saying your problems get solved, but at least they’re taken seriously.”
The point in linking to the video is to make this point: Ignore the fact that the guy’s comedy deals with relations between the sexes — we ought to be able to make these jokes — humor that points fun at a group — all the time, if with much more refined language(1) and with just as little hostility.
Why do I say that? Simple: take this guy’s video, and substitute in a woman making exactly the same kind of jokes, but directed at men, and you have what? Well, you have the majority of the content of today’s female comediennes! And no one’s at all upset about that.
Moreover, men laugh right along as the quick-witted women insult, degrade, sneer at and otherwise denigrate all men. Why do men laugh right along with the derision directed at them? Why aren’t they all offended, triggered, demonstrating in the streets, burning their boxers or briefs, demanding that all these women be fired and ostracized? Why? Simple: men know that a lot (not all) of it is simply true! And they’re not offended that someone else is pointing it out! And, they recognize that there are bad characteristics to which men are prone, and which men too frequently exhibit… because they’re men.
Men are simply mature enough as a group that they’re able to hear uncomfortable truths about men in general without #1 taking it personally, or #2 pretending that all men, or they in particular, are somehow diminished by the jeering. In other words: men aren’t fragile.
It’s not immediately obvious from the video, but Burr really loves women, and is willing to be honest with them. Honesty is, after all, one of the most significant, meaningful signs of true love.
If you’re a woman and you watch the video — and again, I warn you there’s some really rugged, rude language in it — you’ll see Burr points out that there are certain types of women — who deserve some scorn directed at them — and you’ll recognize also that he’s right.
I recognize one of those types of woman, because I married one some years back(2).
Here’s a link to the video:
(1) One of the principal, underlying themes at our small but increasingly influential think tank is that the coarsening of America in general (not just in political discourse) is deeply damaging to us all.
(2) I overheard her once telling a friend, “I’m just waiting for 15 years so that my settlement will be bigger.” The day after our 15th wedding anniversary, I was served divorce papers at work. I pushed back and won all the things I thought were most important from the divorce. That left me with custody of my children (the #1 most important thing), while I paid her child support. Bottom line: the kids have lived with me for some years, while she’s been collecting child support from me! That’s Connecticut for you!